Anal Beginners Kit

The “OH! So Taboo” subject that no one wants to confess to doing, loving, fantasizing or secretly dying to try-you got it Anal Sex!

Really, in this day and age, where sex is everywhere from “coffee commercials”, to “The Simpsons”. You would think that no subject was still seen as a, “Hush, hush, let’s not discuss it” subject. Funny enough it’s still one of the most, not talked about subjects, when honestly, I think we are all intrigued by it in one form or another.

So here we are at our first weekend of the cottage season and one of the guys bends down to get a cold beer from the fridge. “Oh you shouldn’t do that too long as I might just want to go and grab one of my toys!”, I said. Of course I said this jokingly, everyone laughed it off.. But he replied “Oh no, that’s an exit and not an enterance”. Being the lady that I am, and hearing this new “challenge” I reply back “Really? And does that mean that you don’t enjoy anal sex with your girlfriend?” She started laughing her head off, saying “Oh no, if I’d let him he’d only do it there!” Now looking around, some of our guests looked liked “deer’s caught in headlights” and where shocked that we were actually discussing this openly!!

So I open up the floor with this, wanting to see where the discussion will lead to!

“How do we know that God is a Woman? (Drum roll please)

Well a Woman’s G-spot is easily accessible in her Pussy when a Man’s is located up his ASS!!!” (Being his prostate gland nicknamed the men’s G-spot) Tada!

And the upheaval begins! Oh I love starting these discussions. Some men actually look bewildered by my joke, while some are contesting what I’ve stated, but I then confirm that as a Woman’s G-spot isn’t located in there anus, anal sex is definitely more pleasurable for a Man to receive!! Again I get a few resisting my comments, some stating that’s it’s only a “gay thing” but tell me, how can you defy a person by a sexual act? (Whole other subject there, so I’ll let that one be for now!), but some woman are actually agreeing and understanding where I’m coming from. As if it’s good for the goose isn’t it worth a try for the gander?

Now after I’ve confirmed to actually enjoying anal sex when I’m in the “mood” of course, I’ve had a few follow suit, even had one guy state that he tried a small vibrating toy and really he couldn’t handle the vibrations as it was to much for him, but he didn’t mind a finger there while receiving oral sex. Then one lady confessed that she tried it and found it quite painful. So that’s when my teaching cap went on!

Now before I go and tell you how to do this, there are rules to anal sex that everyone should know before trying and here again, this isn’t something that is discussed much but should be talked about ALL the time.

Did you know?

• That the anus does not create any secretions so Lube (not spit) is required.
• The PH balance is quite different in the anus, so to avoid irritation, no flavored or scented lube should be used.
• You cannot go from anal to vagina without washing or changing the condom (again this has to do with the PH and also the different bacteria’s that is in both areas).
• Condoms/finger condoms should be used at all times, as the anus is made of a thinner skin and can easily take in a scratch or tear which can transmit STD’s a lot easier (again bacteria level also comes into play here)
• The anus can actually suction up? So If playing with toys, make sure that it contains a wide base or that you have a firm grip on the toy, as you wouldn’t want for it to creep up into (or suction up) into the anal cavity, as this has happened enough, so we know it does occur. So please avoid this embarrassing Hospital visit as I don’t know how you can explain that one to your parents!?! LOL

With that being said, anal sex can be immensely pleasurable for a woman or man, if it’s done properly and of course respectfully. So, when she’s/he’s ready to give it a try, I would suggest one or two bottles of red wine! Hahahaha! Ok, ok, I’m not trying to promote drinking but being in a relaxed atmosphere surely helps! So, ladies? I’d suggest you have an orgasm or two to relax all of your muscles before your attempt, plus it will assist with the lubing!

Now it’s your decision to start off with maybe a tapering toy, that begins rather small and tapers bigger like an anal plug, anal beads or simply a finger. The process is still the same.

Make sure to be in a position where you can control the entry. maybe having you straddle him and slowly descending on him. Taking your time!!!

I’ve always found it easier having him introduce his head, very slowly, applying pressure, but then backing off, going at it again, introducing just the tip while drawing it out slowly. Continuing this rhythm was quite effective and not painful. If I found that he put too much in and it wasn’t comfortable, then I’d tell him to stay there and let my body relax getting used to size of him being in there. This was very helpful, again drawing out after I was ok with it. to slowly go back in again.

Really, don’t expect to be an anal porn star queen for a while, as I’ve found more women only really enjoyed it after trying it several times. However, the pleasure of anal sex on women is also due to us being blessed with having our G-spots in our vagina. Having the anal cavity “Filled” you will automatically have a tighter vagina, therefore, introducing your fingers, or a toy (I’d suggest vibrating for double the fun), into your vagina to create a “double penetration” is a plus for both parties. Not only will your man feel either the vibrations, the feel of the beads or just the tightness on his shaft, but chances are all of your senses will be heightened, as your g-spot will receive more friction. and pressure on it then ever before, who knows you may even begin to squirt with this added pressure and tightness!

Now that I’ve explained on how the entry can be done with little or no discomfort, men would get more sensations due to actual contact with their G-spots, which can be reached without the actual entry as discussed in my “Toy Review of the clit flicker”.

Again, how do we know that God is a woman?! LOL

Good luck all!